People who are trying to improve themselves by thinking about the way they think often ask the questions:
What’s wrong? and How can I fix it?
Which is a more useful tool than thinking about nothing and doing nothing. So honor yourself for that.
But they say what we focus on becomes our reality. So when we focus on all our problems, our self image becomes a collection of problems in various stages of being solved. Our eating disorder, our confidence issues, our personal finances: all problems that we work to solve and that come to define us.
But you and I are not really a series of shortcomings. We are perfect and complete. So let’s shift our focus by first getting really clear about what we want.
- Create a vision for what you want in your life: love, adventure, money…
- Look at examples of people who have what you want. Find out how they got there, find out how they live their daily lives.
- Do that.
Instead of trying to figure out what you’re doing wrong, look at what successful people are doing right, then do more of that.
Thinking and Feeling
A bunch of people are pissed off with me about saying [drugs are cool], which is a perfect opportunity to write about thinking and feeling. I've talked about the [paleomammalian brain] before: the part of us that evolved before our frontal lobe. The part that's ruled by passion, and won't let you eat Chinese food anymore even though your comparatively emaciated neocortex wants you to. Introspective humans like you live in your neocortex. That's why your life experience feels essentially rational and coherent from the inside. That's an illusion. The reality is that “you” are perhaps hundreds of competing “yous.”...
How to Make Everything Better
The ability to deliberately manipulate the way our own minds work and the degree to which they work is maybe what separates us from other animals. That's the reason our ineffective, [pornographic education system] wrankles me the way it does. But that's not the only reason I'm sharing this excellent video of Ken Robinson's talk about education. The real reason is that **his way of thinking about the system is exactly what I'm trying to teach through my writing here**. He tackles the issues by throwing out the dogma and cultural memes, and simply asking: why do we do it...